Mar
24

Dating Online

In Section: Kultur Milwaukee Posted By: Stephanie Felchner
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Milwaukee is a city filled with great date opportunites. Wonderful resturants, art galleries, concert venues, and sports arenas only add to the prospects of a great date night. For some the only question that remains is, where do I find my date?

Meeting someone by chance can happen just about anywhere. It could be someone you run into at the store, a crowded club, or sitting next to you in class. However, in our age of technology I see many of my peers turning the world wide web into their own personal matchmaker. The largest reason I've heard for online dating would be, "I don't like meeting people at bars." Really, who can blame them?

I can't go a day without hearing the corny eharmony music on the commericals that parade happy and somewhat annoying couples around and match.com telling me "it's okay to look." Is it? Shows such as Dateline's To Catch a Predator have made me very weary of the idea of online chatting and putting any of my information out there for people to browse. Online dating makes me think of the character Kip from Napoleon Dynamite and his chat room love LaFawnduh. "You're just jealous because I've been chatting online with babes all day."

Most people realize that online you can be anyone you wish to be, you can turn back time and make yourself really sound great. Suddenly middle-aged, balding men become "athletic" 25 year olds. How has online dating become so popular? Is love just a few mouse clicks away and if so, should it even be this quick and convenient?

In 2006 dating sites generated $768 million. There were 844 sites at the end of 2004, I'd guess there are close to double that now. Doing a quick google search will reveal pages and pages of choices, sugardaddie.com stuck out to me, I mean seriously? There are plenty of sites available, some free, some costly.

I'm trying to have an open mind about the possibilty of online dating as a realistic tool and a way for genuine people to connect. However, I don't think it's as accepted now as it will be in the future, since the horror stories are ususally mentioned and those who find love online may not be willing to admit it. There are definite pros and cons to virtual dating. As long as you're safe and realistic about the possible outcomes, I suppose maybe it is okay to look.

Have any of you tried online dating?

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Yes, I have been trying it since about last October. It's a slow start with, as you might expect, a lot of sifting. I went the eHarmony route after a friend's testimonial, and then also joined the PlentyOfFish site when I grew impatient (and a bit disappointed) with the eHarmony process. Overall, I like being able to sort potential matches quickly based on several compatibilities and then engage them in low-pressure conversations while keeping a flexible communication schedule (not something bars or many other traditional dating scenes are good for). The hardest part for me has been finding compatible others on the same dating sites who are also in my area. But as you mentioned, our peer group is quickly growing on these sites, acclimated to online-sharing through other social networking sites and feeling comfortable with email conversations as a way to socially interact. I agree with you that the future will bring an even larger user base of dating sites. But even today, there is reason for us singles to be hopeful--anecdotally, I recently started seeing a great lady who I otherwise would never have met.
 
I never tried this myself, as I'm married, but would definitely give it a shot if I was still single. I have a friend who met her husband online. A few other friends have given it a shot, some good results, some bad. I think that the most important thing, whether meeting people online or in other aspects, is to keep expectations realistic. It's just as easy to meet creepy people in a library, bar, in class, etc. than it is online. It's just a matter of farming out the bad seeds as best you can.
That is a great point Carey. Intuition should always be one's guide in dating. Since there are no set rules, be careful in what you put online, be realistic, and avoid the creepers at all costs.
 
What is wrong with meeting people at bars? I met my first two wives in a tequila soaked haze. Making out in public was very exciting, and did indeed taste like licking a wonderful, menthol flavored ashtray! Plus, the thrilling rush of embarrassment the next morning as you quietly, earnestly search for your new partner's ID so you don't have to ask his or her name when they wake up! Anyway, both of those marriages were very succesful for 3 years each! I really don't understand the supposed "safety" of the online community- "Oh, I'd like to meet someone, but I am scared of real life, personal interaction! I'd really like to go on vacation, but stangers are SO, LIKE TOTALLY SCARY!! Do they even spreak ENGLISH outside of Wisconsin?
 
I have tried online dating, albeit briefly. After perusing this blog entry, I decided, on your suggestion, to give sugardaddie.com a try. The process was not only frustrating, but my registration was also then essentially rejected by the system after only a brief search for potential mates. An additional gripe I have with the site is the lack of dating candidates in my desired age range(65-75). My initial search yielded only one match in this range, a 70 year old woman who goes by the name SugarBabe FA68, who seemed very eager to meet me. Alas, I fear it isn't meant to be as the remarkably convoluted site that is sugardaddie.com will no longer recognize my login information and sweet ol' SugarBabe FA68 may no longer be with us by the time I complete the registration process over again.
That is just wrong. Also, for the record I'm certainly not promoting sugardaddie.com, just letting you all know it's out there.
 
 
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