I'm interested to know how you find divorce to be positive. Seems to me that divorce is pretty simple- you make a life-long commitment to another person, and one or both of you break the commitment. I do agree with everything else you've said. How does one stay physically attracted to the same person when TV, advertising, movies, billboards, and even books are filled with what is essentially soft-core porn. In much the same way that the media has desensitized us to violence (see SVU, CSI, Sopranos, Deadwood, etc) it has also desensitized us to the importance of sex and intimacy (see Californication, Desperate Housewives, every reality dating show, etc.) The generation now coming of age has been trained from birth that their own feelings are all that matter, and the Baby Boomers were literally called the "Me" generation. Doesn't bode well for the future of committed relationships. I do remember the intense feelings I had for my first true love and I wonder why I should settle for anything less, even though I understand that youth, naivete, and hormones probably played some role in those feelings. So what's a guy to do? Get a dog and keep dating...