If you know me personally, you are probably aware that I am a fan of the BBC show “Sherlock”. In fact, I'm a bit of a “Sherlock” geek, and if you stop by the Tool Shed on any given weekend, you are likely to find me wearing a T-shirt...

Anyone who does research knows that it is extremely important to start out by asking the right questions. If you don't begin by looking for the right sort of information, everything that follows afterward is worthless. That is why I was so frustrated to read...

How come not all girls queef?Before the skeptics among you start saying that this isn't a serious reader question, let me inform you that students ask me about queefing—aka vaginal flatulence—at a

In your “porn” experience, was there any deliberate attempt to exclude Asian males from being performers? Also, could you say if phalloplasty is common in...

If a person masturbates a certain way for many years, is it possible to change the method successfully? It's definitely possible to change the way you masturbate, if you're willing to put in a little time and effort. Many of us started...

If you think back to the beginning of your relationship, it's likely that sex was more of a priority than it is now. This is common in many relationships. All that new-relationship energy means that you behave somewhat like a giddy teen...

How do you explain condoms to children who find them? This depends on the age of the child or children and how much they already know about the mechanics of sex and reproduction...

I've been in a same-sex relationship for four years now. We have anal sex. Our problem is that my boyfriend always bleeds every time we do it. He has been diagnosed before with hemorrhoids. What is the best way that we can continue...

My boyfriend always finishes before I can orgasm. What can we do about that? Although I don't know the gender of the person who submitted this question, I'm going to answer as if the writer is female. This is because it's not uncommon...

I'm 4-foot-11, and I had sexual intercourse with a man who was 6-foot-7. I found that the sex we had was hard for me to deal with when it came to the positions that we did. I've always thought that my height is the problem of my relationships. What are the perfect sex positions for petite women like myself?

How do lesbians determine when they've had "sex" or not? This is not an uncommon question, and the basis for it lies in the fact that, in U.S. culture, we tend to define “sex” as penile-vaginal penetration...

Almost every year, I take part in a Q&A session at a national conference for college students during which students can anonymously ask any questions they want about sex—kind of like a live version of this column. So last weekend...

Last week, I attended a forum sponsored by the Illinois Department of Human Services called “Taking Action: How Men Can Stop Violence Against Women.” This was one of several regional forums across the country initiated by Vice President...

I was recently chatting with a colleague who works at a sexual health care clinic about common issues or concerns that are brought up by patients. I was surprised that vaginal douching was the first thing she mentioned, saying that many of the...

I am a 29-year-old male who is highly attracted to the porn and sex industry. I would like to be a shemale post-op or ladyboy (physical characteristics of a lady and male genitals) and enter the dream profession. Can you tell me whether...

This Saturday (Oct. 15) at 8 p.m., the Tool Shed is hosting a free workshop called “Sex for Survivors”. This event is meant to provide a safe space for survivors of sexual violence to discuss how their experiences have impacted their sexuality...

Do you have any advice for an FTM (female-to-male) transguy for using a strap-on? Any advice for first-time strap-on users? In a previous column, which you can read here, I answered a reader question about getting started with strap-ons...

I have been dating my girlfriend for about 10 months. We are very much in love, and we have a very active sex life. We are both 22. She has had many, many relationships in the past, both serious and casual, and swears that she was able...

I've performed oral sex on many women. All but a few have reached climax. Normally they will buck and squirm, and I feel contractions in their vagina and anus. Often there are moans, heavy breathing...

My wife would like to try the nipple pinchers that she uses on me. We are worried that they may affect future breast-feeding. For an answer to this question, I turned to Madison Young...

What do people do about leg or arm cramps when bound? This is a problem for us. Nothing like a muscle cramp to cut short a good play session. Since different things work for different people...

Over the past couple of weeks, I've led two trainings at two different churches about implementing sex ed as part of a religious education program. When people who don't know me well hear this, they either think that I'm promoting some kind of abstinence-only, purity-until-marriage...

The September issue of Glamour magazine has a cover article with the prominently placed teaser headline, “The #1 Thing He Craves In Bed Tonight Is...”. The answer is oral sex, and the article goes on to talk about how...

As a woman, how do you balance self-respect with being sexy? I received the question above during a workshop for college students earlier this year. It seemed especially relevant to me this past weekend; while SlutWalk Milwaukee...

I am trying to get a toy for my girlfriend, but we are both very new to this idea. What would be a good starter toy, in your opinion? It's hard to provide a general answer to this, because everyone is different...