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Monday, September 5,2011

Remembering Tom DuBuque

By Harry Cherkinian
 
Tom DuBuque was always in motion as house manager of the Pabst Theater. Throughout his 41 years at the theater, he preferred to be offstage, assisting patrons, solving problems or happy to just greet an interested tourist poking a head in to see the historic beauty of the Pabst.

DuBuque died unexpectedly in a car crash on Aug. 15 while vacationing in South Africa.  He loved traveling and continued to travel alone since the death of his longtime partner, Jim Lagoo, 11 years ago.  But his passion for the theater was obvious to all he worked with.


“Since the theater itself was one of the true loves of his life, in many ways, Tom DuBuque was the heart and the soul of the living and breathing historic Pabst Theater,” said Gary Witt, executive director of the Pabst Theater Foundation. “His love for our beautiful theater was pure and he always wanted the best for it.”


While DuBuque had been a dentist for many years, his retirement allowed him to be in the theater fulltime. And as his assistant house manager and eventual good friend, Chris Segedy recalls that meant doing whatever it took to help a patron. “We were always returning purses, credit cards, wallets,” she says, remembering a time when they found a pair of gloves and she returned them to the elderly woman after Tom made the call. “We worked well together because we both had the same philosophy about customer service. We both came at it from the same place, and he was just always available.”


DuBuque's love for the theater started at an early age when his mother took him to the theater as a young boy.  In high school he and a friend, John Michalski (now an actor in New York City) both emceed the annual AFS variety show and became lifelong friends. Always one to put others first, DuBuque went to see his friend and fellow actress wife wherever they performed, regardless of the show. “Wherever I or my wife Jillian Lindig performed, schedule permitting, he would come. In fact, we were the only actors he would go out of his way to see perform Shakespeare, not one of his favorite playwrights.”


Ironically, Michalski will fly in to “emcee” his friend's memorial service.


There have been a number of shows at the Pabst since DuBuque's passing. But clearly there's an empty space in the lobby and aisles where DuBuque could always be found, moving about, directing, assisting, a smile on his face


As Witt put it:  “We will miss him every day the lights go on.”


A memorial service will be held from 6:30 p.m. to 10 p.m. on Monday, Sept. 19 at the Pabst Theater. The program will start at 7 p.m. Light refreshments will be served. Per the family's request, donations may be made to The American Cancer Society, Alzheimer's Association or an arts group of your choice.

 

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I am truly so very sorry at Dr. DuBuque's passing. He was my dentist for many years while I lived in Milwaukee. A Christmas card I received from him after his first year in retirement told me "you will just love being retired." He was so right. How fitting he would leave all of us while doing what he loved so much. I am blessed having known this animated, upbeat ,kind man who was so much more than a dentist to me. Heaven is so lucky to have him, the last place on his travel agenda.

 

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Tom and I attended Dental school together. I handled his emergencies when he was practicing but out of town. I will miss having dinner with him and hearing his varied and always interesting stories

 

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I worked with Tom. I knew him for the last 10 years. He was always very nice to me. We joked around a lot together and was always fun to be around. He gave me dental advice many times. Going to the Pabst and not seeing Tom will be very weird. I will miss him.

 

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I actually did not know Tom very long, and, as it turns out, very well. I did, however, find him to be a 'character'. I am a CPA in Wauwatosa, and Tom came to me to have his income tax returns done for the first time the year he sold his dental practice and retired. That puts it at about 4 years, I guess. Needless to say I was shocked to hear of his early demise, but it saddened me even more to find out about this major other side of his life. I was NOT aware of his presence at the Pabst, and only superficially aware of any association with the theater through, if you can believe it, some of his tax documents. I'm guessing that if I didn't know about his other side, perhaps he preferred that moment of anonymity. I could concur with the part of the Milwaukee Journal/Sentinel obit that talked about his sweepstakes activity. Some of his winnings did make for some interesting tax situations! I regret losing a most interesting client, but regret even more not knowing him and his 'role' in the theater better than I did.

 

 
 
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